You can’t make anyone forgive you. You can ask for forgiveness, show true repentance, wait and make yourself vulnerable to their response, but your forgiveness is totally out of your hands. The power and ability to forgive another lie solely in the hands of the one who was wronged.
That is how it is with human beings. Asking for forgiveness doesn’t mean you’ll get it.

That’s not how it is with God. I’m overwhelmed this morning that He actually provided a system through which we can be forgiven by Him. He offered His own Son, let Him live as a human, die a horrible death, and raised Him from that grave – all so we could have a clear path to forgiveness, freedom, and life.

This means that if we acknowledge our wrong and ask Him for forgiveness, we get it! ‘He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins‘.(1 John 1:9). Not only that, He then makes us ‘children of God‘(John 1:12).

Imagine! He would go to such lengths to make sure there is a path to forgiveness and reconciliation. Forgiveness is a big deal for our heavenly Father.

Today I’m grateful to be forgiven, and I remember that as a forgiven one, I too now have the power, ability, and command to forgive others whether they ask for it or not.

What a wonderful thing it is to be forgiven! There is no feeling in the world like it! We are created in the image of God, so it stands to reason that if we are blessed when we forgive, it must be the same for Him. Forgiveness brings freedom to both the forgiver, and the forgiven. Oh, that we would share our Father’s heart for forgiveness and reconciliation!

P.S. The first line of this blog rang around and around in my head until it finally woke me up one night. The next morning I got up and wrote it down, and that led to lines you read here. Those words, ‘You can’t make anyone forgive you’ in comparison to how God made a way for us to be forgiven and set free from guilt, has made such a difference in my heart and my thoughts. It brought me freedom. It broke some chains that needed to be broken in me, and took my eyes situations I couldn’t change no matter how I wished they would. I hope they set you free too.

©Debbie Mendoza, July 2019

Debbie Mendoza is the author of

 Exodus: A Journey Through Divorce.

Available on Amazon.

Also by this author: JoyHope – A Christian Daily Devotional. Ebook available on Amazon.


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